When it comes to socializing with other people, there are unwritten rules we need to observe. Those rules dictate how we should and shouldn’t behave and how we should and shouldn’t handle things. Unfortunately, not everyone is capable of following the rules to a tee. As a result, people get offended and relationships get hurt.
To make sure none of those things happen to you, here are the most common etiquette rules people break and how you should observe them.
Do: Stay in your lane.
Don’t: Avoid skipping the line or butting in because that will just make you piss off everyone behind you. Plus, it won’t get you anywhere. Even if you’re in a rush, the plane won’t leave until everyone’s inside the plane.
Do: Be respectful of the person sitting in front of you. Whether you’re simply trying to lower your tray table or you’re trying to get out of your seat, they can feel you’re every move.
Don’t: You don’t use other people’s headrest as leverage when getting out of your seat. You shouldn’t put your feet up as well.
Do: When you are going somewhere fancy, make sure you’re wearing the right attire.
Don’t: Avoid wearing your favorite tennis shoes and jeans for the night.
Do: Wait for your turn. Restaurants have policies and that includes politely waiting for the rest of your party to come before getting seated. If you don’t like waiting, set your dinner at an earlier time.
Don’t: Avoid getting mad at the staff for making you wait for your turn
Do: Keep your phone away from the table. The same goes for your keys.
Don’t: Avoid placing your phone on the table, particularly when you’re eating
Do: Establish eye contact so you can silently signal him that you need something. If that doesn’t work, then you can raise your hand towards his direction.
Don’t: Avoid yelling just to get the waiter’s attention.
Do: Hold the glass by the stem.
Don’t: Avoid putting your entire hand on the glass when holding it. And if you don’t want any wine, simply place your hand over it.
Do: If you’re hosting the dinner, encourage your guest to order first. You need to make it clear to the waiter to avoid confusion.
Don’t: Avoid deciding what your guests will have.
Do: If you’ll be paying for the entire meal, you can give your credit card to the waiter ahead of time. In case you’ll be splitting the bill with your friends, decide how you’ll do it even before the waiter asks.
Don’t: It not proper to ask your guests to pay. Generally, the person who invites should be the one to pay.
Do: Since a bottle has been opened for you, it’s only right that you keep it even if you don’t find the taste great. The only time you can return a bottle is when there’s really a problem with it.
Don’t: Never return a wine bottle just because it doesn’t satisfy your preference.
Do: If you’re eating with someone you’re not really close to, such as a client, avoid sharing food. In case you’re dining with a close friend, simply pass your bread plate so that he can put a sample of his food on it.
Don’t: Don’t reach across the table just to take a sample of the other person’s food.
Do: The napkin is generally used for blotting the area around your mouth. Now, if you need to blow your nose, you’ll need to excuse yourself and find the nearest bathroom.
Don’t: Avoid using the napkin as your tissue.
Do: Sit properly and wear your seatbelt.
Don’t: Never put your feet on the dashboard. This is both dangerous and gross. If you really need to put your feet up, stay at home so you can enjoy your living room sofa.
Do: Let the driver pick his tune. Since he’s doing the work behind the wheels, let him have the final say on what music to play while you’re on the road.
Don’t: Don’t take it personally when the driver doesn’t play any of your songs.
Do: Sit beside the driver if there’s only the two of you in the car.
Don’t: As much as possible, don’t leave your friend alone in front. Moreover, don’t let him feel like you’re treating him like a chauffeur.
Do: Keep your hands to yourself.
Don’t: Unless you’re specifically asked to open it and look for something, resist the urge to get your hands on other people’s property and space. Don’t intrude.
Do: Take your trash with you if you’re riding in another person’s car. If possible, recycle.
Don’t: Don’t leave rubbish in someone else’s car. It’s like messing around his property. Don’t throw out your garbage on the streets, too.
Do: Ask before you borrow anything.
Don’t: Don’t just grab things whenever you like. Sharing a room with another person doesn’t give you permission to use any of his things.
Do: Be mindful of your volume and the noise you create. If possible, wear headphones if you need to listen to something.
Don’t: Avoid playing loud music, particularly when you’re with someone who needs to sleep or study.
Do: Buy your own food.
Don’t: Avoid touching your roommate’s food. Always buy your own unless you’ve agreed to share groceries.
Do: There’s no negotiating over this. Always pay your part of the utilities and rent in full.
Don’t: Never be late with your payment.
Do: It’s fine to ask for leftovers to be wrapped when you’re having dinner with family and friends. If you’re doing business over dinner, it’s best to just leave it.
Don’t: When you’re at a business dinner, don’t ask for the leftovers.
Do: Responding doesn’t take a lot of time so try to do it as soon as you can. That way, the hosts will be able to move on with their guest list.
Don’t: Avoid making hosts wait for your response.
Do: Always pass the salt with the pepper.
Don’t: Don’t leave the pepper when someone asks for the salt.
Do: Always clean up after yourself in the gym. Wiping down equipment before and after you use it helps prevent the spread of bacteria. It’s also a sign of respect to the next person who’ll be using it.
Don’t: Never forget to wipe down a piece of equipment after use, particularly if it has your sweat all over it.
Do: It’s better if you can talk about important things through a face-to-face conversation. This helps prevent misunderstandings.
Don’t: Avoid discussing important things over the phone or through texts and email.
Do: Try to keep your message short and concise. Simply mention who you are, why you are calling and politely say goodbye.
Don’t: Avoid leaving really long messages that might just confuse the receiver.
Do: Simply look at what you are shown.
Don’t: Avoid swiping left and right to see the rest of the album.
Do: Only share what’s necessary. Think before you post something.
Don’t: Avoid telling everyone on your list what you are doing, where you are going, and what you’ll be doing next. There’s no need to share too much information when you are on social media.
Do: Simply stay on one side. This is to allow other people to pass through.
Don’t: Avoid blocking other people’s way.
Do: Let the other person talk or respond.
Don’t: Avoid holding the other person hostage in your long stories.
Do: Only use a small amount of your perfume. 2 to 3 drops should be enough to leave you smelling good for hours.
Don’t: Avoid spraying too much perfume, particularly if you are with people who have allergies.
Do: Simply drink from your glasses.
Don’t: Avoid clinking your glasses when you’re having a toast.
Do: Always keep your phone in silent mode when you are working.
Don’t: Avoid leaving your phone on your desk without turning it off or putting it in silent mode.
Do: Take a break and stay at home until you’ve fully recovered.
Don’t: Avoid going to work when you’re sick, particularly if it’s contagious.
Do: Share toys with other kids.
Don’t: Avoid playing with a certain toy for too long.
Do: Remove your earbuds and sunglasses as a sign of respect.
Don’t: Never let people think you are not interested in having a conversation with them. having your earbuds and sunglasses on is just rude when you’re talking to someone.
Do: Remember to bring wine or dessert. Flowers may work, too.
Don’t: Never show up empty-handed.
Do: Take the stairs if you will only need to go one or two floors up.
Don’t: Avoid causing inconvenience to anyone if you’re in a rush to get to the next floor. Taking the stairs would be faster than rushing to use the elevator.
Do: Find a restroom or do it in your car before going out and walking into a building or office.
Don’t: Avoid doing your makeup in public.